Hello everyone! Today we will be tackling another aspect of the topic of image issues within the LGBT community. Last week, we tackled body shaming. This week, we will dig deep into a worse problem, Racism. I am well aware that I am a white male and recognize my privilege because I have been through a lot of crap in my life. It would be much worse if I were a queer person of color. My heart breaks for every person that has experienced Racism. It’s wrong, and it needs to end.
Believe it or not, Racism exists from the civil rights movements in the sixties and seventies to the most recent unfortunate events with Breonna Taylor and George Floyd. And what is more shocking is that within a community that is begging for acceptance throughout society, there is Racism within our community also. In the United States, ethnic minority LGBT individuals may find themselves in a double minority, in which they are neither entirely accepted nor understood by mainly white LGBT communities, nor are they fully taken by their ethnic group. Many people experience Racism in the dominant LGBT community in which racial stereotypes merge with gender stereotypes; for example, Asian-American LGBT people are often stereotyped by Westerners as more passive and feminine, while African-American LGBT people are stereotyped as more aggressive.
One of the most common phrases that are said throughout the community, particularly on dating apps, is “No Fats, No Fems, No Asians.” Coming from the era when this phrase became mainstream, it was disheartening that gay people didn’t give anybody within the Asian community a chance to even have a simple conversation. I met a man at a party once when I was in college. He was a gay, Asian male. I prodded a little further and asked him how he felt when he would see or hear that comment. I remember the one comment that resonated in my head ten years later. “Being Asian within our community, I get judged right away for being feminine. They diminish my manhood before they even try to know my name.” Hearing that was upsetting. Many people complain about being judged before they get to know them, but there is so much demasculinization that occurs based on the color of somebody’s skin. I know white gay men complained about their upbringing when being categorized as a “fairy” or “one of the girls”, but these types of people are guilty of committing the same social crime.
In the black community, there are a lot of stereotypes that still exist. One of them is standard amongst straights. Of course, they are often looked at as “thugs” or “gangsters,” which is entirely wrong. I’m going to say this right here and now…evil has no color. I have been beaten and robbed once before in my life. The person who committed that crime…white! Stop assuming that somebody is the wrong person based on the color of their skin. The other stereotype that happens within the gay community is the assumption that black people are more likely to spread HIV, which is ridiculous! Again, the disease spreads from irresponsibility…not because of a particular skin color!
The last group that I’m going to touch upon which isn’t looked at as a critical issue compared to other races is the black transgender community. Transgender POC also are particularly vulnerable to health disparities. The 2015 U.S. Transgender Survey looked at the experiences of over 28,000 transgender people in the United States, but the survey also broke down the experiences for transgender people of color. Black transgender individuals were more likely than their black cisgender counterparts to experience unemployment (20% vs. 10%) and poverty (38% vs. 24%). They were more likely to experience homelessness compared with the overall transgender sample (42% vs. 30%) and more likely to have been sexually assaulted in their lives (53% vs. 47%). Understandably, 67% of black transgender respondents said they would feel somewhat or very uncomfortable asking the police for help. The reality of the situation with transgender individuals is rotten, and it needed to end yesterday along with all of the racism! It’s 2021 for goodness sake!
There are many more racial minorities that experienced Racism within our community. I could probably list something with every race that is known to the world.
My message for you all is simple…cut the crap! We need to face the fact that Racism exists even in our community. We need to be supportive of everybody, not just the people that you want to support! We need to make our judgments of people based on who they are with the qualities of their character instead of what they are with what you see on the outside.
I also want to point out one more frustration that I hear many times when Racism happens. People are called out for a comment or opinion made about a person or a situation that happened to their community. That person then responds with the stupid comment of “I’m not racist. I have a friend who is black!” Just because you know somebody with skin color opposite to yours and you had a short conversation or two with them doesn’t make you their “friend.” I don’t care if you have a friend that has a different skin color than you! In this day and age, if you are not racist, you claim not to be, you need to be an advocate. You need to stop Racism if it happens in front of you. It would help if you educated the ignorant.
Once we can uplift every single person(and I do mean everybody), then we will be much stronger with fighting for the one thing we all deserve from society at the minimum…our dignity!
Thank you all for taking the time to read this post. This topic means a lot to me because I’m just completely sick to death of all the hypocrisy within our community. This may be an uncomfortable topic to acknowledge, but these types of conversations NEED to happen so that we can point out our flaws and hopefully change for a better tomorrow. Not just for you, or me, but everybody.
Next Sunday, we will continue this series of image and I will dig into another aspect of this issue.
Also, my debut novel “Cardinal Rules” is out for preorder! Go to the Books tab, and order your copy for my release in March! I will let you know that when I decided to start writing my novels, I made a commitment to highlight the true horrors of society and twist it with the classic slasher elements. “Cardinal Rules” will briefly include the topic of racism in this story, so preorder your copy today!